Over 55

Have you ever noticed how, just after that AARP card shows up in the mail, the bedroom action seems to fizzle out? Suddenly, it only happens on special occasions—or not at all. But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be that way, not even as your hair turns from gray to sparse. In fact, these years could be the most sexually fulfilling of your life. Trust me, I’ve had this conversation with folks who chuckle and say, “Yeah, right.” But then comes the wistful, “If only that were the case for me and my partner.”

Many couples start swapping intercourse for outercourse. Others continue to enjoy a blend of both for many years. The key? Open communication about the changes you’re experiencing, your expectations, and your limitations. With that in place, playtime can still be packed with pleasure.

Sure, the changes that come with aging might make you nostalgic for the past, but why let performance anxiety and other worries steal your fun? You’re absolutely capable of enjoying pleasure now and well into the future, like you never thought possible. It just takes some open conversations, a few new skills, and a willingness to embrace the moment.

Now, some of you may be thinking, “She has no idea how old I am.” And you’re right, I don’t. But the day I read about an 89-year-old woman buying her first sex toy, my view of sexy seniors completely changed. It’s okay to have fun at any age!